Ask Denny Strecker

SoMany Questions asked:


I want to lose weight, build my confidence, build social skills, work on being positive, build my self-esteem, and work on making friends.

I have so much that I need to do, what am I supposed to start on first? Is there a way to incorporate everything all into my daily routine?

Kimberly

futurekind asked:


I am about to break into the world of work, and I think my confidence will let me down.
On my work experience, I had real issues with helping customers, face to face and on the telephone. Although I did have chats with the more approachable people. Also, I felt like everyone was looking at me.
I couldn’t tell whether I was too nervous to help, or it was all down to me not having a real idea of what they wanted.
Either way, how can I improve my confidence?
I have my eyes set on a nice job, in which meeting strangers and answering the phone will be essential. I really need to get over my confidence issue.

Jackson

Emma asked:


i go dancing, and my lack of confidence is really affecting my dancing! how can i improve my confidence?

please help 10 points for best answer xx

Allison

Ashley asked:


I am usually somewhat confident but the problem is my confidence gets shattered very easily. I feel either very insecure, or the opposite..it all depends on how my day went, what people said to me, the events that took place

what are some ways i can instantly improve my self esteem so i dont feel so blahhhh

Jennifer

dillanbridge asked:


Hi, i’m a 15 year old male and I have always been shy. It has been something that my parents have laughed and joked on about when I was younger and I took it in my stride. Now its effecting my social life.

My ‘friends’ use me I think. I am always the one that isn’t asked to go for a game of football, but is rang up if they need something for example if there’s 5 and they want 3-a-side, i am called, then I am insulted by being called a (insert swear) when I say I am not going out.

I am shy in school, to the point where I would make myself ill not to do a presentation in school. It really doesn’t help as I am fairly academic (predicted A* in all GCSE) and already achieved early entry German, English Language and Statistics (B,A,A respectively)

The only person I actually can talk to is my girlfriend, who I have been with over a year and have only recently been able to talk about this sort of stuff as I am constantly scared as to what she will say. I have said many times that I have no confidence and that I don’t like myself and that I dont understand why she likes me, but I have not told her about times where I have attempted small self-harm and have had rather bad thoughts, but it would hurt me to hurt her if I told her.

Can anybody help as to how |I can improve confidence or anything that will help?

Thanks for reading

Xavier

Resha asked:


I dont look at peoplee when i talk and i shake??my friends told me i have no confidence in myself when i talk to people….so how can i improve my confidence?

Carlos

Ktik asked:


Also, how do i keep consistent when I am really tired and I get frustrated? I am playing a really hard tennis match this week and I need to know so I can improve.

Savannah

BobbyD asked:


im not a desperate guy, and ive had two major relationships before but for some reason my confidence is completely shot down right now. I feel like I cant trust the person im with because of the previous two girls I have been with have totally been dishonest with me which led to the relationships ending.

Now my confidence is shot down, is there any ways I can improve my confidence and go up to girls without fearing that I cant trust them?

thanks. btw im 18.

Kaitlyn

photoguy1967 asked:


20 years ago, you had to work with what you were born with. You had no choice, either you worked your butt off and improved, or you accepted yourself and moved on.

Now, if you have the money or credit card, you can improve yourself or buy yourself out of an eating problem. Is plastic surgery ruining a girls motivation and self image?

Aaliyah

John M asked:


I am male, 19 and have no friends or friends or who are girls due to my depression, social anxiety and agoraphobia, athough I used to have loads.
I am not considered attractive but average and I am kind and thoughtful towards everyone I meet, but I have no confidence so even the slightest bad joke made towards me sends me into a state of anxiety and depression. What can I do to avoid girls disliking me and how can I improve my chances of making good female friends from the get go

Emma