Is hitting your child really discipline or child abusement?

Nuna asked:


I would really like to know what you think about this topic. In my culture which is Hmong. Its believed that childrens remember and leanr faster by hitting them. Is this true? Because I’m kinda skeptical about this.

Angel

6 Responses

  1. Natalie Says:

    Mollie

    I spanked my son…(believe me he needed it) but I think I could have gotten farther with him by isolating him.
    They say the quickest route to the brain is through the butt.
    often a spank will enforce what ever you are trying to get through to him / her than talking will.
    MANY MANY think it is abuse but unless it is excessive I do not.
    (I was spanked and lived )

  2. Gabrielle Says:

    Layla

    I would like to think hitting them is a better way of disciplining them.
    But not over board. If you hit them too often, too hard, it turns into abuse.
    Hit them ONLY if they do need it.
    There are some children that are just out of control, but their parents baby them way too much. Those children need to have a spanking.
    If they just got like a F on his/her test, it’s not a reason to hit them.

  3. Cooper Says:

    Carlos

    read and comment this paragraph: poor little miserable people. so be hit then, He fulfilled your desire. And made you watch up close and personal how He teaches when He DOESNT HIT, what greater misery, what greater revenge! Gives freedom to the one He adores and gives eternal doom to the one who wants to be hit out of love ha ha ha Yes, be a teacher, you have so much to give to the world, we dont know how to learn, we believe we need love, yet we need to be hit out of love. Yes, be a teacher, please. Teach. You have got it all. Right. This is exactly what we are here for, small little person, with small little teacher of yours. Poor poor miserable, in chained for ever. Long long after the sun of freedom shines on us, you will still discipline yourselves and others, you little todller, trying to drive a car. A scream to the sky – Is He not care for ME, why does He only care for HER!!!!! You are just a small little answer He has wanted to give her. Rare are tools like you, so perfect in its doom, never to react to truth along the way, bot of you, while the truth was screaming at you. Rare are the the tools like you, to carry the answer to the end, never to tempt the Beloved to change her mind, even in the darkest hour. He is here for HER, you cannot get somebody else’s enlightement stupid little person. Even if you see it, it is still not YOURS! Ej stupid stupid stupid stupid. No wander you hate Him so much. He seems to hate you as much, to torture someone like this! Luckily you have no awareness to know. So this is not the truth for you. It cold never sink in. There is no place inside to sink in. ha ha ha

  4. Zoe Says:

    Luke

    I was spanked as a child and as I got older in my teen years, I was talked to or grounded when I did something wrong. For me, the talking to or grounding worked better. It gave me a chance to realize what I did wrong and to talk through it with my parent. I do not believe in hitting a child. I look at it this way. If your son comes home from school and gets in a fight with another boy, he smacks him, you as the parent will punish him. So if you spank him, you are teaching him that he cant hit someone but you as the parent can?!? That’s senseless to me. You cant teach a lesson with a Contradiction in your own actions. There are many other ways to punish or teach a child a lesson, rather then hitting them, which you would not accept of them to do. Everyone has a rite to believe as they wish, go with what will feel rite to you :^)

  5. Emma Says:

    Caden

    IT IS NOT CHILD ABUSE!
    im not a mom, but some kids need to be literally like ‘whipped’ into shape! no matter what anyone says, it is NOT child abuse d*****!!!
    their a bunch of softies and wusses!
    i have a younger brother, i hit him all the time, he needs it, when he tries to beat me up-too bad he’s bigger than me..-i have to! keeps him in line! its how you get respect, us girls need to have respect from are younger brothers! they need to know how to treat girls. oh boy.

  6. Matthew Says:

    Autumn

    huh?
    you’re wrong -_-’

    I’m hmong and i never heard such thing.
    Wella i have, but then…

    you word it all wrong

    You only get a spanking depending on if your parents are strict or not and if they believe a spanking is bad or good.

    It’s not a hmong thing…
    every culture does it*

    it just depends what the parents chooses to do…

    spank them or not*

    ….I’m only 19, but then…
    I should be able to know the reason why parents do what they do

    they only do it because they think it’s going to get your attention and make you work harder…
    which I found completely stupid because most people these days would just get piss if that happens -_-’

    the spanking part is wrong…
    my parents don’t do it*
    they use to back when i was a kid, but that’s like years ago back when i was 7 or something…

    what hmong parents lack in understanding is the fact that people learn better at a very young age so you have to encourage them not spank them or yell at them…

    it will just cause them to lose patience, hope and so forth…

    most hmong parents usually don’t realize, but then they aren’t giving much hope into what their sons and daughters do however i do understand that they are worried

    you should listen to your parents, however at the same time, you should learn to realize yourself what’s really wrong or not and don’t lie to yourself about it either

    just remember to ask yourself…………….
    If i was a parent, what would i want for you child?

    you have to keep in mind that…
    Whoever you are…
    others are humans too, so what you do would of course conflict with what others do

    you just have to know your manners and so forth…

    lol, iono about you and most of the hmong guys out there, but then I know my manners and how to speak to an elder

    it’s easy*