The kids should be helping out – and at their ages, actually quite a lot. Everyone in the family should be doing things to help out around the house, and it shouldn’t be tied to an allowance. And this is all aside from keeping their own rooms clean.

I would come up with a chore list..for the boys and when hubby objects which you know he will then tell him fine.. what ever chores you don’t want them to do the he dose them or they don’t get done. Kids need to learn how to take care of themselves at some point and in this day and age the chances of those boys finding a wife that will put up with them expecting a slave are slim to none. If all else fails get a part time job and tell them you work so they help clean…

Going on strike, withholding sex, etc. will not solve the underlying problem: his belief that he can take advantage of you, and the lesson he is teaching his children by doing so. Everyone lives in the house, everyone contributes to the daily upkeep of the house. Laundry, etc. are important skills to know, for the day will come when those children leave the house and what then? They don’t do their own part, their roommates will have some mighty negative things to say, for starters. Positive reinforcement is key. Thank you for picking the wet towels off the floor, you’ve saved me a lot of time today. Thank you for scraping your plate, now the dishwasher won’t get clogged with leftover food. Thank you for taking out the trash, now bugs won’t think our house is an appropriate place to live. Tell the boys that you’ll do the laundry, if and only if their clothes are in their hampers. It’s not extra work for them to put dirty clothes in a basket instead of on the floor/over a chair/on the bed/in their desk drawer. When they, inevitably, complain about not having any clean underwear, remind them that their hampers were empty, and you took that to mean they didn’t have anything they wanted you to wash.

im the oldest sis and the only grl besides mom and my dad expects me to help my mom do everything while he watches tv and my bros. play outside. they are still pretty young so i try conditioning them by saying take out the trash every other day or make your bed every morn. and just simply place your dirty clothes where they belong after you take them off instead of leaving them on the floor. now they are just accustomed to it so they do it w/out asking. i started a couple yrs ago. there is no hope for my father he is used to being looked after. i dont know if it will work on teenagers since they are used to not doin anything.

Household chores is the responsibility of EVERYONE.
Doing chores requires team work. No one sits watching TV for example while others work.
As a family you work together and this does not matter what the chores are. No one is a slave.
Remember these words. Work together, play together, stay together.

Myself I would either not do the work so they can realize what you do (worked for me) or just start telling everyone what they are going to do whether they like it or not. I’m a SAHM and while yes I do keep the house clean and my 2 boys do help me when hubby gets home he has his own set of chores that he is in charge of. He has his moments where he wants to be waited on hand and foot and I just ignore him or tell him to do it himself because I’m not his or my boys slave.

I say what a pig!!!
Who does he think he is,you can’t change him but you can stop your children from becoming him.You are the parent and your children should be helping you and you should enforce this,do you want your boys to grow up like him?

You really need to fight back on this matter. If you let your husband and his kids to walk over you like that, they’ll never stop and you’ll completely lose their respect for you.
As a stay at home wife/stepmom, it is your duty to up-keep the house while everyone is away. as you are not contributing an income. However when everyone is home, the housework is supposed to be divided equally. You are not their slave and as a woman you need to stand up for yourself!

I’d put my foot down. The children will never learn responsibility if they can’t even pick up after themselves. Your husband should pick up after himself too. He shouldn’t be a slob and then tell you it’s your job. Sounds like they take advantage of you and take you for granted. Maybe Mom needs a vacation by herself and leave them to fend for themselves for a while:)

Sounds like he wants them to be just as ‘male chauvinistic’ as he is! Why do all the work when you have a slave to do it for you………………………….
Anyway, tell him to get off his butt and do chores too!!!
Helping around the house is NOT going to make a ‘sissy’ out of any male!!!!! Besides, he makes the mess – he can clean it up!