randy asked:
she says that she will never make her kids do chores that it is a womens job and the kids job is to get good grades in school. what do you think. plus we pay our kids 50-75 dollars a week to get good grades?
its ok if they get a c or better not a d of a f
i agree with you desmeran i will show my wife this hope she changes her ways
Ryan
she says that she will never make her kids do chores that it is a womens job and the kids job is to get good grades in school. what do you think. plus we pay our kids 50-75 dollars a week to get good grades?
its ok if they get a c or better not a d of a f
i agree with you desmeran i will show my wife this hope she changes her ways
Ryan
November 30th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Angel
HOLEY CRAP! 50-75 dollars for good grades dang if my parents did that i would be RICH!
December 2nd, 2009 at 9:24 pm
Jayden
do whatever works for you i guess..
personally, i wouldnt be paying my kids to get good grades, i mean what happens to them when they get a B or a C, they will think thats bad.. and you are pretty much paying them to get As.. it will all blow up in the future..
maybe make them do chores for money, not for good grades
December 5th, 2009 at 5:51 pm
Grace
I think that if a kid goes off to college and doesn’t know how to do the laundry, keep a room clean enough that a roommate will not ditch him, cook a meal, or whatever, then that is a failure of parenting. It’s also a failure of parenting if they technically know how to do it but feel above it because they’ve always had someone else waiting on them hand and foot.
paying for grades is a great way to raise cheaters or kids who always take the easiest possible courses. paying any kid $75 per week is a great way to encourage a drug habit. what is a kid doing with that much money?
December 6th, 2009 at 11:17 pm
Thomas
I think your completely bonkers and your kids are going to end up being a handful.
December 10th, 2009 at 12:48 am
Hannah
I’ll be your kid! lol
Really? 50-75 bucks? Wow! I think kids SHOULD do chores because it teaches discipline. What are they going to do when they move out? If they are boys I wish them luck to find a woman to do EVERYTHING because honey, it’s the year 2009. There are more career moms than the classic 1950s housewife!
December 11th, 2009 at 2:24 am
Makayla
Yep..Your children are headed straight for spoiled rotten brat land! You can’t pay a kid that ungodly amount of money every week for doing nothing, or they will always expect it. If you are paying them, for god’s sake, make them do something for it! Grades are their job right now…I do agree with that. But allowance is pay for WORK! They are never going to know any responsibility.
December 13th, 2009 at 8:43 pm
Jordan
Chores are a good way to teach your children responsiblity and to let them they are a part of the family. The family chores are shared and rotated. We all clean and do housework. We all do laundry. We all take care of the baby. I am a father of 4 daughters. Everyone has a role I want to teach my daughters to be proficient in supporting them selves. You should not have to bribe your children with financial rewards for grades. The expectations is to have good grades. If they get poor grades then we need to have some behavior modifications.
December 17th, 2009 at 2:18 am
Brian
Shit can I be your kid. My parents only paid me $10 to do chores and get good grades. I think that simple chores are ok such as picking up their room, making their bed, and as they get older you can add vacuuming and other small easy stuff. I agree that you shouldn’t have them do everything but they should learn to help out. It teaches them to respect their house and you as well. If they do nothing all day but go to school to make 50-75 dollars a day then your kids are gonna be spoiled and think that they don’t have to do anything to get what they want. Pay them less to get good grades and set up chores for them to do. Sure they will hate doing them but they need to take some household responsibilities , they live their too.
December 19th, 2009 at 9:12 pm
Austin
Wow….that is disturbing. I think the kids will end up being unable to function in the real world. If you do not make the kids do something, such as take out the trash, make their own lunches, clear the table, and such, they will never learn how to care for themselves and they will have a difficult time when they leave home. Plus, their roommates or whoever is unlucky enough to marry them will HATE them.
Money for grades? Hmmm…that is a lot of cash, I mean, a lot.
I have never given my kids a dime of allowance, and they are both straight A students who (usually) do their chores. Granted, I don’t make them do tons of chores, because they work very hard on studies, and my 15 year old also holds down a job…but still….
garbage, recycling, helping set and clear the table, making their breakfast and lunch, and seasonal activities such as shoveling the walk or helping to weed the garden.
December 22nd, 2009 at 10:05 am
Maria
Your wife is not doing your kids any favors! They will grow up and not be able to take care of themselves. Basics. Kids need to be well rounded. What good is it to be smart if you have all the problems that will be created by not cleaning and maintaining your home, property, etc. Is she going to run around after them all their lives to take care of their needs?
And you can tell her I said chores is not a woman’s job.
It is also better to take pride in getting good grades. This is much more important than getting paid.
December 24th, 2009 at 11:39 am
Cameron
I think you should gently approach her without criticizing her ideas on payment for good grades.She has her ideas and the rest of society has theirs .How old are the children? are they at high school or junior school because in all honesty when the children leave home to go to college or university will they cope with the realities of living in a communal environment, eg doing their own laundry, or making ones bed .I grew up with a mother who did everything for me and i am still having personal problems with organisational skills,prioritizing key areas of running a housework schedule. Maybe work out a time plan for the children where allowing 1 hour a day have a specific job for each child and make a compromise with your wife on both ideas.
December 26th, 2009 at 10:28 am
Savannah
Holy Cats 50 to 75 dollars a weeks, dang i will do chores and get good grades are you taking in any foster kids (LOL) no but really i think chores help build a child work ethic and they are responsible for something a woman’s work is not just in the kitchen it is teaching your children to be muture responsible adults when the time comes
December 28th, 2009 at 3:10 pm
Paige
I’m a parent too – a mom that is. I really believe that children need to be discipled. That means teaching them many different aspects in life and most importantly, pointing them in the right direction. Education is wonderful and I really see that you and your wife value it so highly. That is excellent. I expect a high education for my son too and I expect him to do his best always. But I will also teach my son how to cook, garden, clean, take care of children, be a caring and loving person, a hard worker, a man of integrity, a man who loves God. It’s all part of discipling him.
How about putting your children in a private school instead of paying them so much for their grades? Or, how about putting them in dance or music lessons as a reward for being a good student. I do think children should be rewarded and invested in, but not by directly paying them. Children don’t know how to be wise stewards over money. Even adults often struggle with that. It might be better to invest that money in your children in a more nurturing and enriching way.
December 30th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
Kayla
even though it’s a woman’s job to worry about the house, it’s also a woman’s job to train her kids how to take care of themselves. (the girls need training now to be the kind of woman she’d like them to be when they are her age, and the guys — just in case they don’t have a woman to do things for them, they need to know how to do it themselves.
I’m saying this because my mom was of the same spirit as your wife, and now, since I never had to do chores when I was a kid, I have trouble keeping house on my own.
so pass this message on to your wife too. I hope she changes her view after this bit of info. — fof your kids’ sake at least.
December 31st, 2009 at 3:18 am
Taylor
I think its ridiculous,my kids do chores and get good grades in school and i certainly wouldn’t pay them especially not that much for something that is expected of them.
I reward good behaviour and i reward big achievements but i refuse to motivate them with money,they need to learn that they are getting those grades for their future not money and chores are part of family life.
December 31st, 2009 at 10:04 am
Kimberly
I think kids should do some chores, just not everything. I did chores as a child and still got good grades in school.
January 2nd, 2010 at 10:36 am
Haley
If kids never have a few responsibilities at home, they won’t know how to act in the real world — and also, when everything is handed to them for nothing, they will grow up with expectations.
January 4th, 2010 at 4:07 am
Avery
I’m in college and don’t have a job, I get $50 or less a month for gas. Your children are going to be spoiled and inept at everyday tasks.