I use the minimum amount of correction necessary, with one exception: If either of my children tell me no they get a spanking (which consists of one swat on the butt). I don’t believe in spanking as the answer for everything, but children have to remember that the parents are in charge, and if they cross that line they get a reminder.
A lot of it is situational. Sometimes just asking nicely works. In some cases I need to use that stern tone of Dad voice. I also find that counting works. If I tell them to do something or to stop doing something and they don’t respond or start getting whiny, I count from one to ten. If I get to ten and they haven’t straightened up, they get a punishment like a time-out. Spanking is a last resort (except when they tell me no) and thankfully I haven’t had to spank them very much.
P.S.: To people who disapprove of spanking, you should know that my children are very well-behaved. On the flipside, I know many parents who refuse to spank their children and their kids are very often little monsters…
well im not a parent…but i do know a couple of ways to discipline……Its kinda simple to be honest….Your child should already know that if they don’t do something they will get consequences for not listening. After the second time you tell them to do something and they don’t listen thats when discipline comes in. You look at your childs eyes and tell them nicely I told you to do something and you didn’t do it, so now i have to discipline you(they’ll know what u mean once u do it). Then u spank them three times(not so hard) Remember…u also want to win their hearts not just disciplined them..but it also depends how old are they, if they’re 4-10 years of age you spank them …spanking them and correcting them when they are little really helps. Now for older children ages 11-15 usually the man of the house disciplines them. Thats another story =) hoped i helped and yes it works!!
used to take favourite toy away for couple of days my daughter is 16 now dont know why got four down that is way chrildrens board told us over here it works no nbeed to smack
There are many different ways and a combination of methods is most effective. My children require a firm clear structure of warnings, time out, rewards and immediate consequences with loss of privileges. The only thing that I think is universal for any method to work is for the person who is disciplining to have confidence in their ability to get results, be firm and flexible to try other methods when their initial one backfires. Any method has a high chance of failing if the person gets upset, angry or offended by the child.
October 28th, 2009 at 7:41 pm
Matthew
Physical abuse…
October 30th, 2009 at 7:29 pm
Alexis
I use the minimum amount of correction necessary, with one exception: If either of my children tell me no they get a spanking (which consists of one swat on the butt). I don’t believe in spanking as the answer for everything, but children have to remember that the parents are in charge, and if they cross that line they get a reminder.
A lot of it is situational. Sometimes just asking nicely works. In some cases I need to use that stern tone of Dad voice. I also find that counting works. If I tell them to do something or to stop doing something and they don’t respond or start getting whiny, I count from one to ten. If I get to ten and they haven’t straightened up, they get a punishment like a time-out. Spanking is a last resort (except when they tell me no) and thankfully I haven’t had to spank them very much.
P.S.: To people who disapprove of spanking, you should know that my children are very well-behaved. On the flipside, I know many parents who refuse to spank their children and their kids are very often little monsters…
October 30th, 2009 at 7:54 pm
Ethan
A warning first, then a time out or spanking.
And yes, it works. They are very well behaved.
October 31st, 2009 at 6:20 pm
Jayden
well im not a parent…but i do know a couple of ways to discipline……Its kinda simple to be honest….Your child should already know that if they don’t do something they will get consequences for not listening. After the second time you tell them to do something and they don’t listen thats when discipline comes in. You look at your childs eyes and tell them nicely I told you to do something and you didn’t do it, so now i have to discipline you(they’ll know what u mean once u do it). Then u spank them three times(not so hard) Remember…u also want to win their hearts not just disciplined them..but it also depends how old are they, if they’re 4-10 years of age you spank them …spanking them and correcting them when they are little really helps. Now for older children ages 11-15 usually the man of the house disciplines them. Thats another story =) hoped i helped and yes it works!!
November 3rd, 2009 at 9:53 am
Kimberly
used to take favourite toy away for couple of days my daughter is 16 now dont know why got four down that is way chrildrens board told us over here it works no nbeed to smack
November 5th, 2009 at 6:27 am
Destiny
There are many different ways and a combination of methods is most effective. My children require a firm clear structure of warnings, time out, rewards and immediate consequences with loss of privileges. The only thing that I think is universal for any method to work is for the person who is disciplining to have confidence in their ability to get results, be firm and flexible to try other methods when their initial one backfires. Any method has a high chance of failing if the person gets upset, angry or offended by the child.