Rylan’s Mommy asked:
I am wanting to fins another way to discipline my daughter rather than the repeative No’s Stop’s. I believe in spanking and I do spank, but I just don’t want to use spanking as the only effective method.
Brady
I am wanting to fins another way to discipline my daughter rather than the repeative No’s Stop’s. I believe in spanking and I do spank, but I just don’t want to use spanking as the only effective method.
Brady
Hunter
have somone else spank them for you
Sophie
I wish people would think more outside the box than I need one set consequence for all things.
Spanking is one good option and yes it is effective so I do advocate it under some circumstances. There are many many options outside of spanking that are effective. You need to do some brainstorming to come up with them. Spanking is used sparingly for real deliberate defiance in our home.
I don’t use one set consequence for all my kids’ misbehavior. Each circumstance is unique, so the consequences are unique. Sometimes I even extend grace rather than a consequence, especially when my child is truly remorseful (I think of how God extends His grace to me when I mess up and my heart is repenting). Repetition is still important, especially for small children, but when your children disregard it then you must take action.
Here’s a good resource book that I found helpful for me:
A Mother’s Heart by Jean Flemming. Chapter 10 is entitled Teaching through Discipline. It’s a great resource book for the tender hearted yet no nonsense mom.
*Hmm, all thumbs down. Well I was only trying to help
Andrew
what my father did was cut the cord on my tv when i disrespected him. But when I showed more respect he spliced the wires back together.
Bailey
It depends on the child, I can tell you about my then 5 year old step-son. He was acting out in school and calling teachers bad names…etc. Custody battle, is all i can say, and at 7 he no longer does these things.
Anyway, he likes watching tv during dinner and talking about baseball, and seeing who gets done with their plate first…etc. Well the spanking had lost its effectiveness so I suggested a form of punishment that my husband thought was crazy, but it worked.
He had to sit on his bed for one hour, without doing anything, no reading, no tv, no toys, nothing! Then he had to eat his dinner, by himself up in his room at his desk. No TV, no one to talk to, facing a wall, no distractions! When we were all done with dinner and clearing up my husband would go up and get my step-son’s dishes and ask if he was ready to be a good boy, and to talk to daddy about why he was a bad boy and how he could not be a bad boy again.
Gosh he hated that punishment. When he got in trouble at school or anywhere after that he got big crocodile tears and said Oh no….am I going to have to eat in my room by myself again?
Nevaeh
yelling, taking away privileges like tv, video games, dessert for a period of time, sending them to their room, chores
Chloe
Ask some one else to spank them for you. It is the best method for discipline. sometimes, grounding may also works..
Liam
I want to know the proper answer myself. I am highly intrigued. Spankers get the thumbs down, non-spankers get the thumbs down, privelige removal gets the thumbs down…so shall I assume that we should just let kids run amok with the occasional time out just to say we did something to discipline them? This section is a fascinating area of Yahoo Answers. How fickle parenting trends are. They change with the seasons it seems, what is in and what is out. What is out is often painted child abuse or darn near it.
I tell you what, I will continue to whip mine when they get out of line. It works over here for me, and everyone compliments my well-behaved kids when they are at school or out. When the time out crew’s kids are running amok in pre-K this year, my baby daughter will be sitting at her table doing her work if her teacher asks her to do so. I bet mine won’t be the one getting kicked out of Pre-K, It does happen.
Vanessa
Figure out how your child learns (visual, auditory, kinesthetic or a combination) and then use those methods to teach them how and why to make good decisions for themselves.
Trust them to want to do what’s right and good, what builds good relationships with others, what makes them feel proud of their choices, then help them to do it.
Expect mistakes while they learn help them learn how to recognize them learn from them.
If they are not yet capable of learning to make good choices for themselves, then don’t expect them to do so and don’t punish them if they make a mistake when they are put in a situation that they do not yet fully understand. Instead, teach them or supervise them by limiting their choices to only ones that they can safely politely make on their own.
Isaiah
well I am actually having a problem with that right now, my daughter is 20 months old and she has found that she can open the oven door, luckily we have gotten to her before she could hurt herself and also we were lucky that it wasnt on at the moment, but she knows how to open the door and even turn the knob to turn the gas on, so I ordered on of those oven locks off the internet, thank god for that. But we tried spanking her and it does not work, so we are trying time outs, and again they are not working, so if you figure something else out you let me know, please.
Vanessa
when you figure out how to discipline without spanking, let me know.
Lillian
Spanking is a good option!